Saving Lives....

‎”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.) Reblog this! It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a situation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world. THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG… FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts: 1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets. 2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing. 3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered. 4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots. 5] Number two is office parking lots/garages. 6] Number three is public restrooms. 7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught. 8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming. 9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. 10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it. ———————————————————————————————————————————- POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER: 1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target. 2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target. 3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent. 4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts. 5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there. 6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly. 7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble. ——————————————————————————————————————————- FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL …. I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in. 1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it. 2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION! 3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives. 4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE. 5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage: a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) . b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars. c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.) 6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot). 7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN! 8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim. Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry. If u have a heart or compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand. REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW ATLEAST PEOPLES WILL KNOW WATS GOIN IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

TOMS Patches

I don't know about all the rest of you TOMS wearers out there, but i wear through my rather quickly. i always get little holes in the tips of mine where my big toes poke out haha. i was sick of not being able to wear them anymore (as they cost rather a lot more than they should), so i decided to patch them up finally.

Instead of leaving just one little patch on the tip, i also decided to embellish them a bit with some gold ribbon which i used fabric glue to attach to the shoe. For the patches, i just used some material from old jeans and glued a square on the inside of the shoe, and then also the outside. Here's my finished product!

this is halloween, halloween, HALLOWEEN!!!

Ok so i haven't blogged in ages and i have to hurry and finish my paper right now for class, but i'm thought that i would put up a couple of pictures from halloween and then write some more later...so enjoy and there will be more!

something to blog about

ok....i thought of something exciting to blog about! (hahaha this proves how non exciting my life is). ok so, my supervisor at work, Stacey, has a pet boa constrictor at her house. it's name is Katie :) haha so she promised she would bring her in on feeding day so that we could hold then feed her!! so the surprise is that we didn't know exactly what day it was going to be until she brought her in......and it was our unofficial dress day. where all four of us secretaries wore dresses to work. so that's why in all of these pictures we're all dressed up for holding a snake hahaha.



After holding Katie, we fed her a huge rat and it was AWESOME!!!!! and yeah....just another one of the adventures while working in the BYU Grounds Office. hahahaha

F.A.I.L.

wow, im such a fail at blogging! so i apologize and i'll try to be better....just like i say in every post of mine hahaha :) well lets see, not much has been going on, just been chilling, going to work from 8 to 5 then coming home to do some hw. hopefully i'll finish my class in about a week and a half so that i can have a nice three week summer :) hahaha uh.... i'll try to live a more exciting life so i can have things to blog about hahahah xx

post surgery blogging...

ok, im soooo bad at keeping up my blog. so i'll try to get better...sorry! ok so what has been going on recently in my life.........hmmmm....
well i just had a complete reconstructive surgery on my acl. I completely tore through and pulverized my acl and through my meniscus. it was great! hahaha it happened during rugby when two different people tackled into my knee at the same time from different directions. this was while i had a run and had already hit a dip on the pitch and hyperextended my knee. it didn't end so well.....and the fact that i went back into the game and tried to finish it out. that helped too haha. until the ref took me out that is!





its been about a week and a half since my surgery and i graduated from my brace and crutches yesterday! and im allowed to drive again! hurray! im not really allowed to do anything physcial unfortunately, so if there is some unexplained but large amounts of weight gain....that would be why hahaha but hopefully not! i'll be able to run in about three months and play sports with a special brace in about six months. im definitely counting down the days!!!





ok lets see what else....hmmm im back at work, i work for the Director of Grounds office at BYU. so thats fun. i have a bunch of awesome co-workers who make what would be otherwise a boring day fun :) gotta love em!
I also go to physical therapy three times a week. I have to admit, these are the highlights of my week as its the only time allowed to exercise and be physical! and the people there are amazing!!! too bad physical therapy is so darn expensive or else i would probably be in there every single day!

well that's all that i can think of for now. until next time!!!

xoxoxox vash <3

SC tourney and Wasatch Cup

so i really am bad at consistently blogging, unlike my mum haha. for those of you who don't know, she just changed her blog address from 2sons1son3sons.blogspot.com to shirleyandsons.blogspot.comn its amazing and there's yummy food and great stories and pictures :):)

ok so lets see.....last weekend ashton, brandon, walter, and i had a rugby tournament in st george. it was super fun, the boys did awesome in their games and i had a blast in mine. our girls did well considering we only had four practices pre tournament. we played against lowland girls team p[who have been practicing since nov] that game we lost 5-3 tries, and our second game against Snow Canyon girls team [who have been practicing since august. that game we lost 3-2 tries. in the first game i was selected as woman of the match by the other team. and in the second game i got our second try. [a try in rugby is like a touchdown in football].





Ok then yesterday, we went to Rio Tinto and had another Rugby Saturday :) first at twelve we had UNITED LP team against Davis County. We won 22-17. Then it was highland u19 against uvu u21. THat was a terrible game and highland crushed uvu. not worth mentioning. THEN.....BYU vs UofU!!!!! of course BYU won 42-20 and it was AWESOME!!!! i had a ton of fun with my rugby mates that were girls and we were able to cheer on a bunch of my friends who play for BYU :):) it was such a blast and we had an amazing time :) now we are about to sit down for sunday family dinner with our family friends the tidwells. we're also celebrating my daddy's birthday today :) HAPPY 53rd DADDY!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!! :):):)

oh and it's also my friend peter wilkinson birthday as well! he plays for the byu rugby team and is from england. so....HAPPY BIRTHDAY PETER!!! :) <3







anywho i'll try to blog more and keep taking pictures :) be happy and keep the faith. vasha.

new brothers :)

well it's been exactly two whole months since i last posted....and for that i apologize. my laptop has been sent off for repairs as it would not even turn on :s but no worries! my generous roommate has been letting me use hers! so that's what im doing now! sitting at her desk and blogging. so lets see....what's new....one of our family friends daughter got married this last friday feb 11th! Congratulations britalee and larry!!!! hope you guys have a blast in mexico!! :)

also ashton spent the weekend is Las Vegas for the 2011 Rugby Sevens World Series!!! his team played some games on thursday fri and sat....they played full fifteen...then on saturday and sunday were able to watch the professional international sevens teams compete. i was cheering the whole time for new zealand and was estatic when they made it to the semi finals. they lost however to fiji who played very well this series.

it all came down to fiji and south africa....and SPRINGBOKS WIN!!!!! south africa took the cup for 2011!


i also got two new brothers yesterday! brandon and walter....they are both from new zealand and will be living with our family for the duration of the 2011 spring rugby season. they will be playing for united alongside ashton :) Walter is from Kaitaia, NZ with is in the far north about 160 kilos aways from Whangarei and Brandon is from Hamilton, NZ. it should be a very interesting experience for us all.
my mum says that she went from two sons on this earth, to one son, and now she has three! she's also working on a cooking blog that will be soon up and running. check it out at 2sons1son3sons.blogspot.com :):):) on it she'll be putting meals that she cooks for her boys at home, showing pictures and a bit about the dish...should be yummy!!!





well i have to go do some more homework before i go to dinner and then fhe....
keep the faith & be happy. Vasha

finals week....

well it's here....FINALS WEEK....great. a week full of studying, reading, sleeping, studying, taking tests, writing papers, and studying some more. luckily for me...im almost done. i only have one more to take....but it's in the class that is hardest for me :( so we'll see how it goes. im just hoping to pass in order to pass my classes. that's what im praying for right now...just to pass all my classes....it's the weirdest thing, i've never worried about passing in school before. welcome to college i guess haha. finals week = hell week.

sad days

so once upon a time [today], i was in writing class and i got my paper back....and i had gotten a very very bad score...then i went to my next class and got a paper back...with a very bad score...and i realized..i suck at writing. it is not really one of my skills apparently...at least not at uni. in high school all my teachers loved my writing, i guess that just lulled me into a false sense of security. so i went to uni all excited thinking, "i can do this!"........FALSE. i cannot. my new goal is not to get good grades, but to just pass all my classes. at least this semester, because this is the best i can hope for sadly. it kind of makes me wanna cry.
on a brighter note, i had a very good, kinda great weekend. i got to go camping on friday night, and then on saturday i got to go home and hangout with my little brother. i also got to bring home a friend, which was very exciting. my friend's name is Louie. she is awesome. she got to go on Weekend Adventures with kaia, hannah, and i. so that was pretty wonderful. then on sunday my friend matthew had his farewell, which was sad but fantastic at the same time. then we had a yummy family dinner. i love my sunday family dinner :)
then i came back to uni....and did homework. apparently badly even though i spent hours upon hours working on it. oh well, i'll just have to try even harder next time. and maybe learn to write to please my professors and not myself.

brilliant win!

14 Nov

All Blacks v Scotland

Edinburgh

6:15 am

49-3

Justin singing Respect by Aretha Franklin

looking back....

i was just looking at my blog today and reviewing old post when i realized that i didnt put up any pictures from prom! i had the sweetest date...a young man by the name of Collin Bearnson who was such a gentleman. :O) his mum was also such a doll and got one of her friends, porshe [a professional photograher], to take pictures of us. here are the pictures...i hope you enjoy them :O)

Making friends………………is it really as easy as it seems?

Being at college is a whole new experience……you see people who come to school all by themselves…..they come from across the state, across the country, and across the world even. They know no one, yet they are able to quickly bond with other students…..usually bonded together by similar feeling, ideas, and standards. Here at BYU….you see a whole different story than you would at any other university….especially if you were comparing it to a university like cal state, or university of Washington or some other random university………. People here are brought together by the common thread of religion…..LDS religion to be more specific……it draws together kids with similar values and standards….students who are looking for the same thing in life…..that being eternal life….and happiness on their adventure striving for that :O)

It is really interesting to see how the different kids here from different cultures and upbringings react differently to the same situation. They are all being thrust into their futures…..they are alone [im not counting knowing kids at school as being not alone] you really are alone when you move out…you are no longer surrounded by the family and people you grew up with…….you are growing up….you are surrounded by people in the same stage of life that you are in…… it is really an amazing phenomenon the way that different people respond and act.

Most kids' responses are affected by their life experiences, the way they grew up, and really just on their own, personal, and original personalities. I see kids who go and sit by themselves at breakfast, lunch, and dinner…..you can almost see them hoping that someone will come sit by them….. then you see the kids who eat with the kids that went to their old high schools…..they aren't meeting new people….but they aren't shutting themselves against the world……then you see the kids that decide that they want to sit by someone new and different every meal….these are the ones that seem to have the best experiences and make the most and lasting friendships….

Sometimes it's better to have the later behavior and point of view….but then again sometimes it's better to make new friends but not be too overpowering….never be the first example! You may make friends because someone took pity on you and decided to sit by you….but you didn't do anything to earn that friendship…..the things that we work for are the things that we appreciate the most…..if you want to make good friends… you have to put forth the effort….and actually do something to try and make friends :O) don't be a sit-by-yourself-er….be a make-new-friends-because-you-went-out-of-your-comfort-zone-and-decided-to-work-for-your-friendships-er! Making friends is really not that hard….it's actually quite easy….just stay away from the dodgy fools and sketchy creepers….and you'll do just fine… :O)

byu

sorry this has taken so long for me update....as you can all tell....i struggle with updating regularly. :O) well i'm down here at byu provo... and i've survied my first week hahaha.... i've been enjoying my classes immensely and find them very interesting. i am taking 14 credits which include: anthropology 101, writing 150, psychology 111, greek and roman mythology, and religion 212 [which is a BOM class]....it's really been fun :O)
i enjoy being on my own, and have been having a fun time with new friends and old. there have been a few dances and activities which have been cool.... although i do miss mum's cooking. hahaha but who wouldn't right? anyways here's a pic of my roommate [allie knight] and i :O) love you all!

san diego trip pics

San Diego Senior Trip

just got back this morning at one'o'clock.....super long drive! my mum and daddy took to me to san diego for a few days as my senior trip. we got there on sunday evening and arrived back home yesterday....as i said above. we got to see sea world, san diego zoo, and wildlife park. it was way fun! we got to see all sorts of cool animals like lion, tigers, bears..........hahahaha
we also saw giraffes, baby elephants, a baby rhino, warthogs, a little panda bear, lots of monkeys, cranes, condors, wildabeast, and lot and lots of other animals. i'll put up pictures when i get them up on the computer :O)

we also walked around Old Town San Diego, the Gaslamp District, and Little Italy.... all of which had absolutely amazing food! in little italy we went to this restaurant call trattoria fantasica. it was right under the neon little italy sign and the food was completely divine! hahaha all super athentic and if you ever get a chance to eat there.... do it!

Heritage Tours

so i havent written in forever it seems but heres a little bit about what i've been up to in july.....



HERITAGE TOURS!!!!!!!!!!!! i was gone for three weeks on a church history tour where we visited church history sites all connecting to the pioneers and jospeh smith. we made a big circle driving up to winter quarters over to kirtland....then new york, where we also visted nyc and niagara falls....... to vermont, the birthplace of joseph smith.....to pennsylvania.....virginia.....nauvoo.....and adam ondi amon! we saw carthage jail, liberty jail, hill cumora pagaent, nauvoo pagaent...and lots more. it was a fun trip fill with the spirit... and friendships were made that will last forever.

aloha! talofa! kia ora! bula! malo e lelei!

greetings from the far traveler! hahaha or not so far traveler, as i only went to hawaii.... but it was wonderful to soak up some more polynesian culture and just relax! we left the mainland on tuesday, June 1st. the first leg of our journey was a short hour and a half flight to portland, oregon where we had a short 40 min layover, and then it was off to the beautiful island of oahu, hawaii. (it's my fav island) we arrived there the evening of the 1st. this trip we stayed down on the south part of the island in Waikiki. it was a whole new experience for us, as we usually stay on the north shore. we spent so much time up on the north shore though, that next time we go to hawaii we'll definitely stay up there as per usual. waikiki was very different because it is very busy and touristy. there is a lot of shopping, but when we were down there, we usually just hung out at the hotel. the hotel had a beautiful pool, man made lagoon, and a beach. here are some pics of it.




we spent a lot of time up on the north shore in laie. my cousins melanie and royce (they're husband and wife) live up there, along with felix, who is royce's younger brother. felix works at the PCC [polynesian cultral center] in the Samoan village as a "demostrator" basically he climbs coconut trees, makes fire with sticks, and dances hahaha :O) we spent a few days up there at the pcc going around to the different villages. we also say kimmy johnson [a girl my age from our ward in highland who is attending byuh for spring and summer] and amber ah sue [who was my roommate at SOAR last year and will be attending byu with me in the fall] they both work there as picture polys [the ones who pose in pictures with you when you come in] and as dancers. we had a good time there! :o>




so we also went to the beach. of course! who goes to hawaii and doesnt go the beach. come on! lets get real here! but i'm tired of writing so i'm just going to put up some pics.



we got home yesterday, june 9th in the morning after a redeye flight back, straight from hawaii